How To Pick Up Girls At Clubs
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So you want to learn how to pick up girls at nightclubs? It’s actually not hard at all to get up close and have some fun with a girl in a club, as long as you follow some basic do’s and don’ts
Follow these rules and be like this guy... just less douchy... and with hotter chicks.
DON’T creep anyone out. If you’ve spotted a hot chick, by all means make eye contact, but don’t make it last longer than 3 seconds. If a girl feels like you’re stalking/watching/staring at her, she’ll get creeped out and wont be able to get comfortable around you when you eventually approach her. DO establish very brief eye contact if you must, but most importantly, when you see something you like, either take action fast and approach, or ignore her until you do decide to approach. If she catches you looking at her, she will also get the impression that your lacking in confidence (which would be true) and that you don’t have the balls to approach her.
DON’T approach women from behind. I’ve had far too many female friends let me in on this one. It makes them feel uncomfortable and cautious. DO get close to them first without looking like you’re there just to talk to them, and then approach from the side.
DON’T look bored. I like to hit the clubs with my buddies. I know there are some guys (especially in the pick up scene) that go alone, but that’s not my style and I certainly wouldn’t recommend it to you, especially since you’re reading a blog post on how to pick up girls at clubs. DO have fun. When I go I always have all my focus and attention on my boys. Whether it’s on the dancefloor or at the bar, I’m laughing and cracking jokes with my boys, completely disregarding everyone else around me. By doing this, women take notice and see that even though there are hot chicks all around, I find my own friends far more interesting. What this does is elevate my social value to any woman who happens to notice me, or who I happen to approach on that night. Because I’ve already established my reputation as a funloving, confident guy with friends and lack of neediness for women, I become a prospect before I even open my mouth. Contrast this with the other guys you find at clubs that stand around like losers, not talking, not smiling, holding a beer in one hand, and often just looking at chicks and staring at any hot ones that pass by. These guys NEVER get girls because they look like losers. Do you know the kind of guys I’m talking about? Maybe you’re already one of them. If you are, then stop. When at the club, smile and have a great time with your friends. It will give you greater success when you eventually approach a girl.
DON’T look average or lame. If you look messy, or if you’re clothes suck, people get the impression that you don’t have much self respect. DO stand out and be unique, and look presentable. Wear something unique and distinctive to stand out. It might be an item of clothing or an accessory. It can be something as simple as a necklace with an unusual pendant, or something more bold like an extravagant hat. As long as you look confident and comfortable, you’ll pull it off. Stand around like a loser and you’ll look like a douche. The great thing about wearing something distinctive is that it’s a great conversation starter. I once wore a large metallic inverted pentagram pendant on my necklace to a nightclub. I thought it looked pretty cool, and the symbol has a rich philosophy behind it which I happen to share. It was unusually large but it did the trick, I got a lot of attention because it isn’t something you often see at a normal nightclub. That night I got a compliment from a chick who understood what the symbol meant, and we got talking. We exchanged numbers and I hooked up with her a few nights later.
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Once you’ve approached a woman in the club I like to begin with talking and joking, and I like to touch her hands and arms when I say something that I know is going to get a reaction out of her. Also, as popular pick up artist ‘Mystery’ puts it, I use ‘negs’. A neg is when you give an offhanded negative remark to a woman. So you’re basically exposing her flaws without looking like you’re doing it intentionally. An example neg would be ‘I like your nails, are they real?’, knowing full well she has those fake nail extensions. When she replies ‘no’, you say ‘oh they’re not? well I guess they still look nice’. You get the picture. I won’t go into this too much because I’ll go into more detail about it in another post.If you’re on the dancefloor then you can’t really talk and hear each other, so go for girls elsewhere in the club where you can actually have a conversation.
Hand on neck, smiling, playing with hair... this girl is clearly interested.
Once you’ve clearly developed some rapport and comfort with your new friend, it isn’t too hard to get a bit frisky in the club environment. Take her to the dancefloor. A good indicator of how interested she is is to hold her hand on the way to the dancefloor. If you hold her hand and she squeezes back, you’re set. If not, she isn’t so sure about you. Once on the dancefloor, be bold and take it in steps. Don’t be afraid to touch her hands and arms, or put your hands on her hips and bring her close, provided she’s facing you and looks interested. For the dimwits out there, a girl is interested when she’s smiling at you or what you say, and touches your hands or hits you playfully. In a club the music affects the way people dance with each other, so if you’ve got a song which gets people grinding, be bold and do the same with your girl, especially if she’s already interested in you. The trick here is to not do it half heartedly – be firm but also let go if she doesn’t like it.
If things get heated and you end up making out with the girl in the club, go all the way and invite her back to your place. If she says no be cool with it, but don’t give up. Give her reasons why coming back to your place would be fun for her. Tell her about something awesome at your place, like a cool aquarium with tropical fish or your new italian tiles in your kitchen, whatever you say give the impression that you have a nice place worth coming to. Because she doesn’t want to feel like a slut, she will be more comfortable coming to your place on some lame excuse like seeing your tropical fish, which she will give herself when you end up having sex at your place.
A quick word of warning, if you’ve made out at the club and she doesn’t want to go back to your place don’t expect anything to happen if you get her number. The following day she’ll likely feel bad about making out with you on the same night without even knowing you. Also, some girls go to clubs just to have fun and making out is acceptable for them – however these girls often don’t have sex with the guys they make out at clubs with.
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So that’s it guys, even though this was a long post, there’s a lot of stuff I didn’t go into a lot of depth because I have no intention of making this article the length of a novel. Stuff like conversational skills and escalating physical contact will be tackled in later articles. Now go out there and do as I say!
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Hey everyone, greetings from Holland. This is a helpful blog. Does anyone have any advice on staying out of the friend zone with girls? I’m really tired of women telling me they just want to be friends. Perhaps I’m being too nice?
Some good insights on this site…right now I have a question on this subject because I’m working on a book modern dating and how to get a girlfriend in today’s world. I’d really like to get your comments on this recent trend of guys learning “pickup”, and I’m curious if this stuff is actually effective? Is there one “pickup expert” out there who truly has techniques that work?
Judging by your tone and language you sound like an arrogant club male-slut. Get a life